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July 17, 2014
July 09, 2014
I can’t believe two years has past since Andrew and I’s wedding! Time is flying by so fast, and we’ve been enjoying every second of it. For my Wedding Wednesday post this week, I wanted to share my experience to my future wedding clients and to the world as a past bride. It’s something I actually don’t share with people very often because the experience was personal to me. This post was supposed to be shown last week, but I have written my thoughts over and over again. It’s been really difficult to share an experience that you will never forget, especially when things don’t go as planned. I realized the best way to show how I felt at my wedding was this photograph that was taken that day.
So why the title, “Suck it Derecho” for this blog post? If I offended you with my choice of words, my apologies but, I am allowed to say that. When people ask me when was our wedding and we tell them July 1st, 2012, the next thing I always hear is “Oh, so you are a derecho bride.” Yes, I got married the same weekend as one of the biggest storms hit our area in years. Yes, our wedding story will be a story to tell our children and grandchildren one day. What was supposed to be the best weekend of my life was instead one of the most stressful times I’ve ever experienced. We lost both our venues 24 hours before the wedding because of no power and the hotel with our out-of-town guests had no power or AC either. I thought to myself the Saturday before our wedding asking “Seriously, why us? We’ve been planning for TWO years and a huge chunk of it was gone just like that.”
The photo above is from our “First Look” before all the family photos were taken, the ketubah signing and the wedding. It was a moment Andrew and I got to share in peace before the normal wedding craziness happened. When I able to hug him here, before he saw me in my dress, I just knew everything was going to be OK. I knew it didn’t matter to me that our wedding was not as planned. Only thing that mattered was Andrew was there waiting for me to start our new adventure as a married couple, and I couldn’t wait.
I realized that a reception, little details, food and decor can make a wedding, but it does not make a marriage. Testing our relationship in a very high stressful environment is what made our bond and love stronger and we knew nothing was going to stop that. Am I bummed that our wedding didn’t go as planned? Maybe a little. But what Andrew and I have together is worth way more to me than losing both our venues, the crab cakes we were looking forward to and whatever else we lost. So to everyone out there, I guess my message is don’t worry if something doesn’t go as planned, or if your wedding details (like flowers) are not what you wanted. Just remember that the love, partnership, passion, teamwork and everything in between is what matters the most. That stuff makes a marriage and a bond that will grow forever. That LOVE conquers all.
*To all of our family and friends that help us make the best out of a crappy situation, I just want to say we appreciate and are grateful for all the hard work you did to help us make our wedding work without a hitch. We knew from this we have the best support system of all and we love you all for that! So thank you again!*